If you could have the superpower to feel whatever way you wanted to feel, would you do it?
Think about all the happiness you could experience!
I’ve got good news for you - you can feel the way you want to feel. You just have to learn emotional intelligence.
Managing your feelings is the second key to life. To quote Joe Dispenza again:
“Quite simply, our routine, known thoughts and feelings perpetuate the same state of being, which creates the same behaviors and creates the same reality. So if we want to change some aspect of our reality, we have to think, feel, and act in new ways” - Joe Dispenza, Breaking The Habit Of Being Yourself
Today we’re focusing on changing the way we feel, because feelings are the reason we do anything in life.
You haven’t ever wanted a thing. What you’ve always wanted, regardless of whatever desire it is, is the way that thing will make you feel.
Have you ever thought about that?
So you don’t necessarily need that achievement you’re focused on to get the feelings you really want. I suggest investing in mastering the art of feelings/emotions. It will save you a lot of time and energy and bring much more fulfillment.
Managing your feelings starts with awareness of thoughts and emotions. These two are intertwined, because your thoughts affect your emotional experience and vice versa.
Think about the feelings you want to feel. Most of the time we think about the things we don’t want. Due to the law of attraction, we create the outcomes that we focus on. Thus, without realizing it, we can easily create feelings that we don’t want.
For example, I don’t particularly feel like writing right now. I’m aware that I don’t feel the motivation. I’ve been procrastinating because I’m thinking about the pain that will come from writing (i.e. boredom).
Rather than sulk in this feeling of drudgery, I’m going to stop for a second and work on improving my thoughts. I’m going to think about how writing this post might help you, the person reading this. As I think about this, my forehead wrinkles and frown fade and a smile comes over my face.
I just changed my emotional experience in about 15 seconds. I’m now having more fun that I was 15 seconds ago. Pretty cool right?
The thing is, although I wasn’t consciously doing it, I was creating the pain for myself when I was unconsciously thinking about the negative aspects of having to write.
Once I recognized my negative thoughts, and the uncomfortable feelings, I could pause, change my thoughts, and focus on how I wanted to feel.
In order to do this effectively in real time, it’s vital to have a strong emotional vocabulary. There are many different emotions. Fear, for example, is different from apprehension.
Vocabulary is important in this field. The ability to accurately name the emotional experiences you are having is the most fundamental pillar of emotional intelligence.
If you want to develop your emotional vocabulary, study this Wheel of Emotions Chart.
Once you develop an understanding of what emotions exist, you can develop the capacity to notice different emotions as they occur in your body. Once you do that, you can develop the ability to decide what emotions you want to experience. Once you’ve got that down, you can start to create those emotions for yourself in real life.
That’s what I call superpowers. And they exist.
But superpowers wouldn’t be superpowers if everyone had them. That’s why it’s extremely hard to develop. It takes a lot of work to develop superpowers, but there’s no better investment you can make.
If you want to start developing your Emotional Intelligence superpowers, work on developing your emotional vocabulary.
Take a minute to pause and check into your body. See if you can name the emotions you’re experiencing, and describe to yourself how it feels. Do this a couple times today. Just see what you notice.
What emotions are you experiencing right now?