#151 - Sail with the Emotional Winds

The master sailor doesn’t resist the direction of the Wind.

The wind cannot be changed, and so instead the sailor uses the direction of the wind no matter which way it’s blowing.

Similarly, the master self-expert doesn’t resist the direction of her emotions.

Her emotions are happening, and she allows them to guide her actions.

Her actions dictate how the emotions will progress forward, but they do not aim to stop a current emotion dead in its tracks.

Take sadness for example.

The master self-expert doesn’t simply suppress sadness when it’s coming up (unless that’s necessary for the present situation).

The master self expert acknowledges sadness is happening and allows that knowledge to shape her actions.

She acknowledges the sadness and chooses to watch a funny movie to distract herself.

The key here is that she is not resisting the emotion.

In this, the emotion doesn’t have power over her.

Today, I invite you to do your best to sail with the direction of your emotions.

Don’t resist. Acknowledge and take conscious action to change the future.

Thanks for reading,

Chip

#150 - Hustle Every Day

You can’t control the weather, but you can control your hustle. 

Hustle is te constant ingredient that all outrageously successful people possess. 

IQ tends to get a lot of focus, but there are an enormous number of people who create massive success and have a low IQ. 

Hustle wins out because hustlers make progress every day. 

Wheres your hustle level today? 

Can you elevate it 1%? 

Thanks for reading, 

Chip

#149 - Imperfect > Perfect

We have a perfection problem in today’s world.

The world sometimes rewards the striving to be perfect.

The perfect picture on Instagram, for example, gets more likes.

More likes makes our brains happy, so our brains learn that perfect is good.

Perfection, unfortunately, is the enemy of progress.

Progress comes from taking steady, consistent action towards your goals.

Big goals typically require mistakes to be achieved, so you need to be okay with that going in.

I used to be a perfectionist, and have perfectionist tendencies still in me.

Like all people, I still try to make my Instagram look good and all that.

I used to only post something when it was perfect, though.

And boy is that a tough way to live!

Eventually, I had to just stop giving a s*** what other people think as much.

Nowadays, I post without having something be perfect all the time. I make typos in my blogs. I don’t mind because I know I’m making progress.

If you’re like me, and you spend way to much time making things perfect, the solution to the perfection syndrome can be deadlines.

For example, I leave no more than 20 minutes every morning to write a blog post.

Some days the posts aren’t that great. But every now and then I’ll post a gold nugget.

Gold nuggets in my experience don’t come from obsessing over one thing forever.

It comes from trying lots of different things and being consistent.

Be consistent. Be imperfect. Celebrate the imperfection and keep taking action.

You got this!
Thanks for reading,

Chip


#148 - Good Mistakes = Progress

In life, there are good mistakes and bad mistakes.

Bad mistakes are mistakes you repeat due to not learning the last time.

Bad mistakes are also mistakes you could have avoided by learning from the mistakes of others, like texting while driving.

Good mistakes are mistakes you are making for the first time. In this, they are wonderful learning opportunities.

Good mistakes often sting the worst, because they’re fresh. An example of this is trying out a new way to start a conversation that goes over poorly.

You botched it, but you learned something. There’s no failure in that.

Thomas Edison failed 10,000 times before perfecting the incandescent light bulb, and he didn’t view any of those failures as a bad thing.

He viewed them as progress.

Your good mistakes are progress, and you need to be making them if you want to grow.

I want to encourage you to put yourself out there more and make more good mistakes.

I hope you succeed. If you never fail though, you’re not pushing yourself enough.

What ways can you push yourself today to learn something new?

Thanks for reading,

Chip


#147 - Consistent Imperfect Action

I learned a fabulous technique the other day from Mastin Kipp.

The concept is CIA - Constant Imperfect Action.

CIA is the key to success.

If you consistently take imperfect action, you will become successful and you will grow.

This is the opposite of waiting to do things until the moment is perfect.

How do you know when is the right time to take imperfect action?

Use your fear as an indicator.

Most of the time, our fears are trying to protect our ego.

When we feel fear, most of the time that’s a good sign of a growth opportunity (unless it’s real danger like being on a cliffs edge).

The other day I walked into a coffee shop and took a seat next to a cute girl. I noticed by fear of talking to her, and knew that’s what I needed to do.

I struck up a conversation, chatted for a few minutes, and that was it. She left and seemed uninterested. I wasn’t discouraged, because I had done the hard thing of pushing my comfort zone with imperfect action.

Shortly thereafter, I saw another cute girl outside the coffee shop with a bunch of friends.

I wanted to meet her, but fear starting talking.

“Don’t go talk to her. She’s with her friends and doesn’t want to be bothered. And is she even that pretty?”

Thoughts like that dominated my mind, and I didn’t end up taking action. I didn’t do CIA. And I missed an opportunity to, at the very least, expand my comfort zone.

CIA isn’t perfect, and sometimes fear wins the battle.

And that’s why it’s a battle. Every day you have to fight your fears in order to grow.

Don’t be discouraged when you don’t achieve victory (like me in this case). Stay optimistic, and be on alert for the next opportunity.

Think about why you want to chase that opportunity, even when it scares you.

For example, rather than thinking about if she would reject me, I could have framed it as an opportunity to expand my comfort zone so that one day in the future I’d be more comfortable to talk to people in a way that would help me spread world peace.

This post feels all over the place, but guess what? I’m gonna post as is.

That’s imperfect action.

Be consistent in your imperfect action.

Thanks for reading,

Chip

#145 - Don’t Quit

Don’t quit when you feel down and out.

Feeling down and out is just one of the waves of life.

When this wave hits, it tends to hit hard.

It hits hard because it hits you emotionally.

When you’re going through a hard time, it might feel like the easiest option is to quit what you’re doing.

It feels easy to quit because quitting would temporarily ease the pain.

The pain, though, often returns in the long run if you quit early.

True reward comes when you commit to stick something out regardless of how it feels each day.

That’s also what it means to be a professional.

Going pro means that you show up ready to do the work, regardless of how you feel.

The rookie league is for people who only do the work when they feel like doing it.

As a coach, many days (today included) I don’t feel like doing the work to grow my business.

I often struggle to cultivate the motivation to want to talk to people and put myself out there.

When I’m on my game, I’m telling someone new about my practice every day.

Laying one brick at a time.

When I’m off my game, I find myself making excuses for why I don’t need to be spending time doing the hard stuff.

Most days I actually don’t feel like doing the hard work that involves pushing the comfort zone.

The thing about the comfort zone is that it never gets easy.

For an introvert, it never becomes easy for me to just strike up a conversation with someone.

But I commit to doing it because the alternative is quitting and giving up.

When you are pursuing something you believe in, do not give up.

Be relentless and take massive action every day towards achieving your personal victory.

What action will you take today?

Lay your next brick.

Thanks for reading,

Chip


#144 - Routine is the Mother of Success

Success isn’t something that happens overnight.

Overnight success may appear to be the case for some people, but 99.9% of the time any overnight success is the result of years of consistent hard work.

Hard work pays off, especially when it’s strategically oriented towards the realization of a goal you care about.

The trick is to define your goal, work backwards to figure out how to get there, and then build routines that support you in that process.

The process only works when your routines match up with your goals and when you stick to your routines.

When you check both of those boxes, success becomes inevitable.

So how can you use routines to reach your success outcome?

For starters, create a routine for the first 30 minutes of your day (or longer - my routine is 2 hours).

Make this time sacred.

Don’t turn your phone on during this time.

This time is about you.

While it may feel compelling to hop on your phone right when you wake up and start responding to what feels urgent, most of the time you’re not responding to what is important.

Focus on the important things, like your mind state, for at least part of your day every single day.

That will pay off for your long term success.

Thanks for reading,

Chip


#143 - Forgive Yoself

You know what sucks?

Making stupid mistakes.

Speaking of stupid mistakes, I just made one tonight.

I had a meeting planned for 7pm.

This 7pm meeting had been on the book for more than a week.

Despite this, I glanced over it on my calendar today without registering in my brain that this was actually happening.

I just wasn’t paying attention.

I made a mistake.

When you make a mistake, there are a couple routes you can take after doing so.

  1. You can hate yourself, get angry at yourself, and let your mistake ruin the present moment.

  2. You can forgive yourself, learn from your mistake, smile because you’re human, and do your best to never make the same mistake again.

For the first 18 years of my life, I chose option 1 most of the time.

These days, I go for option 2.

One of my favorite techniques that helps with option 2 is a breathing exercise.

As you breathe in, you say to yourself “I do my best”

As you breathe out, you say to yourself “I let go of the rest”

For a punctual control freak like me, this exercise actually helps me let go and move forward.

Next time you start getting angry at yourself, give this one a try.

Thanks for reading,

Chip


#142 - Always Be Learning

Learning makes you happy.

It makes you happy because it satisfies one of your human needs.

That need is Growth.

Growth is the fundamental law of the universe.

You can tell it’s a law by analyzing the way you develop physically.

Throughout your life, your body is constantly changing and growing.

It’s wired to be this way.

When you feed your body the nutrients that facilitate that growth (I.e healthy eating), you feel great.

The body isn’t the only thing that’s trying to grow, though.

Your mind is trying to grow too!

In order for you to feel great in life, you need to be growing your mind in some way.

Podcasts and books are a great example of ways to do this.

Did you ever think about why you feel good listening to a podcast where you’re learning something new?

It’s because you’re satisfying this need for growth!

Find a way to expand your mind and learn at least 30 minutes every day.

How can you learn today?

Thanks for reading,

Chip

#141 - Wake up saying “Thank You”

We are creatures of habit.

Habits define who we are.

They define who we become.

Most people live life without consciously managing their habits.

There is nothing wrong with that.

But it doesn’t let you reach your potential.

Potential achievement, happiness, love, whatever it is you want, habits can help you.

For many years I had a habit of waking up in anxiety.

Anxiety would be present the moment I opened my eyes.

While this pattern is still often present, I’ve been able to re-train my brain habits to have it be far less apparent on most days.

One of the ways I do this is to wake up saying “Thank You”.

Instead of waking up and letting my thoughts start running, I try and connect with my in breath and out breath for at least a minute.

As I breath in, I say to myself “Thank”.

As I breathe out, I say to myself “You”.

I do this for at least a few breaths, and it puts me into a state of gratitude to start the day.

It’s a micro adjustment, but it makes a big difference.

You might give it a try.

Thanks for reading,

Chip

#139 - Envision. Strategize. Execute.

Envision. Strategize. Execute.

These are the three key steps to achieving your full potential.

They go in order, and if you follow this, you will have more direction and make more progress towards your goals.

Step 1: Clarify

First, get clear about what exactly you want.

Map out a vision for where you want to be a year from now.

Get as clear with the details as you can.

Step 2: Strategize

Once you’ve got your vision, work backwards.

Work backwards to figure out the steps you need to take to get to where you want to be.

Create a plan that will get you there.

Step 3: Execute

Once you’ve got your vision and your plan, the third and most important part is to execute.

Execution is where so many people falter.

They falter because execution is the hard part.

It’s the hard part where the rubber meets the road.

Once you have a plan, stick to it.

If the plan doesn’t work, make adjustments to the strategy.

Then execute again.

And if that doesn’t work?

Try a new plan.

ABT - Always be testing.

ABE - Always be executing.

Thanks for reading,

Chip


#138 - Want More? Be Grateful

Do you want more out of your life?

I’ve got good news - it’s totally possible for you to get what you want.

What you want, though, won’t happen until you’re ready for it.

Sometimes, the key to getting what you want starts with being grateful for what you have.

It’s not the process that our brains wants to take us through.

Our brains tend to always want more.

The annoying part is that when we stay in this state of constantly wanting more, it’s hard to enjoy life.

On top of that, when we’re in a state of wanting more, we’re actually in a state of “lacking”.

When we want more and aren’t grateful for what we have, it creates a weird dynamic in you that leads to self-destructing behavior that keeps you from achieveing your goals.

So, the trick is to be what Ed Mylett calls “blissfully dissatisfied”

Grateful and blissful with all that you have, and completely dissatisfied and focused on getting more.

This state of blissful dissatisfaction is very different from a state of “lacking” dissatisfaction.

So how do you do this process?

With whatever it is you really want, start off by focusing on what you already have in that category that you’re grateful for.

Once you can start holding your gratitude and your desires in your hands at the same time, things will really start to open up for you.

Thanks for reading,

Chip

#137 - Optimize Your Environment

Your environment has a bigger effect on you than you might realize.

The effect of environment is subtle, but incredibly strong.

It’s a “slow drip” kind of thing. Day to day you might not recognize the impact, but over time it is slowly affecting you.

Consequently, it’s incredibly important to optimize all aspects of your environment.

This includes your home, your work environment, and your relationships.

This is one of the core pillars of what I work on with my clients.

It’s a core pillar because it’s something I know to be true and strive towards.

At the same time, I’m not perfect.

For example, right now my home is messy.

My desk is in the middle of the living room.

There are a random assortment of papers all over my desk.

There are opened and unopened packages I haven’t gotten around to putting away yet.

There are things lying around.

Etc., Etc.

I try to keep my home in order, but right now it isn’t.

And that is affecting me because the little things add up.

Every time our focus is distracted, that’s affecting the course of our life.

So how can you start to optimize your environment today?

For starters, begin taking mental notes on what exactly your environment is.

Become aware of what your work, personal, community and home environments are like.

Begin to think about the impacts those environmental standards (or lack thereof) are having on you.

As you become more aware, you can begin to start to tweak things to make your environment more aligned with what you want out of life.

Get to it.

Thanks for reading,

Chip

#136 - Master Your Psychology

For the first 18 years of my life I believed that the mind was all powerful and that I wouldn’t ever have control over it.

Now, at 25, I know that not to be the case.

The truth of the matter is that each of us has unlimited potential to master our psychology.

I am living proof of this.

At 18, I was overwhelmed by stress and depression.

I was on meds for both.

Through thousands of hours of mind and body training, I have overcome those states of being.

No more meds needed.

I retrained my mind to think differently.

Which led me to start acting differently.

Which reinforced new thought patterns.

And the cycle goes on like that.

No matter who you are, you will always have room to grow to develop greater mind and emotional mastery.

Otherwise known as mastering your psychology.

Mastering your psychology is one of the five pillars of my coaching philosophy.

I work with my clients to develop this internal skill set, and at the end they walk away being able to do it on their own.

Coaching accelerates the growth process, and you can also do it on your own?

So how can you get started mastering your psychology?

Start by becoming familiar with the patterns of the mind.

The thoughts that come up every day for you.

The first step to mastering your psychology is understanding your patterns.

Write them down. Figure them out. Then stop the disempowering thought patterns dead in their tracks when they come up.

Thanks for reading,

Chip

#135 - Presence is Power

Presence is power.

It is power in a positive sense of the word.

I’m thinking of power in the context of someone who has an ability to impact other people.

I’m thinking of power as something like Martin Luther King’s ability to inspire a crowd.

I’m thinking of power as something like the Dalai Lama’s ability to create happiness in the people around him through his warmth and embrace.

As a coach, my greatest strength is my ability to be present with you.

Through being present with you, I actually can connect to you.

I can have empathy for what you’re experiencing.

At the same time, being present allows me to stay connected with what’s happening inside me.

And that’s when the real power kicks in.

When you have the ability to be present with another individual, and at the same time be present to yourself, you are truly engaged with the world.

Over time, as you practice the skills of mindfulness and emotional intelligence, these skills become more integrated ways of being.

You’ll start to have longer and longer periods of time where you enter into this flow state where you’re tuned into yourself, your mind, and others all at the same time.

These moments are moments of enlightenment.

Enlightenment doesn’t mean you one day do something and all your problems are cured.

Enlightenment is more of a muscle that you develop so that over time, you can lock into flow state for longer and longer periods of time.

Enlightenment is being fully present. It’s something most of us have experienced, at least in brief moments.

So, the question then is “how can I develop presence”?

To be as simple as possible, you meditate.

Meditate every single day. Start with one minute if that’s all you can handle, and increase it by 1 minute a week for 20 weeks.

Don’t look at it like a chore.

Don’t go into it with expectations of how fast you’ll get results.

Think about why you want to do it. Write down your motivations if you want it to stick.

It’s a practice.

It’s an investment of your time.

A worthwhile one.

And it will become enjoyable over time. You’ve just got to get past the beginners curve.

A daily meditation practice will allow you to start training your mind to be the servant, not the master.

If you want to have a more fulfilling life, this practice will lead you there.


Thanks for reading,

Chip


#134 - Take 1 Minute to Breathe

Life moves fast.

It moves really fast when you’re a high performer.

High performers, more than anyone else, are often the people who sometimes need to do less.

Doing less, oddly enough, is often times the key to the next level of performance.

Performance declines when you’re burned out, so maintaining balance is key.

Today, take a minute to restore your balance.

Take a minute right now.

Set a timer on your phone, and do nothing except breathe.

One minute can change your day and give you the break you need to get your mind right.

Thanks for reading,

Chip


#133 - Create Momentum

Momentum is critical to success because progress builds on itself.

Progress is something that happens over time, and momentum is what keeps the ball rolling forward.

There’s a certain energy that comes from momentum.

Just like how it’s hard to beat the team that has momentum in March Madness basketball, it’s hard to take the individual that has momentum off course.

I’m saying this as someone who completely lost momentum last night.

After a long 3 weeks, my first 3 weeks into entrepreneurship, the fire of energy burning inside me literally went out.

I felt crushed. I felt defeated. I felt hopeless. I felt sad. I felt lonely. I felt scared.

Those feelings scared the s*** out of me.

I was scared because I realized the negative power those thoughts have.

Further, I was scared because I realized the negative power those thoughts would have if they gained momentum.

The truth is, I experienced burnout. And burnout, just like all things, can also gain momentum.

But I didn’t allow it to.

I stopped, analyzed the feelings, did some research and realized that I was experiencing burnout.

Then I took the necessary steps to stop it’s momentum dead in it’s tracks.

I reached out to friends/family and told them what was happening, and then i did nothing. Absolutely. Nothing.

Just for a few hours. But it was enough to do the trick.

Today, a new chapter begins. A new opportunity to build momentum. It’s April 1st as I write this, and I’m starting a new chapter.

New Month. New Chapter. New momentum.

Today I’ll be creating momentum, because I know that’s what drives me forward in the long run.

But with this post I want to serve you. So how can YOU create momentum?

Two things.

1) Set an intention to create momentum in your life.

2) take massive action to do that

How can you do this today?

Thanks for reading,

Chip


#132 - Move to Reduce Anxiety

Anxiety is an uncomfortable feeling.

The feeling of anxiety, fortunately, is something you have some degree of control over.

Your level of control can be increased with practices, too.

One of my staple practices for dealing with anxiety is movement.

Movement is a good tool for managing anxiety because when you change your bodily state (I.e get your blood moving in a different way) it automatically changes your mind state.

I’ve been working on my anxiety for 8 years, and I still wake up with anxiety on a regular basis.

Today I woke up with the Sunday Scaries.

My college (UVA) won the elite 8 basketball game last night, and I was out celebrating with friends.

So my sleep pattern was different.

Later to bed, later to rise, than normal.

And that creates anxiety for me.

I managed this today by waking up and going for a walk right away.

I took a few deep breaths.

I changed my state.

How can you move today to help with your anxiety or difficult emotions?

Thanks for reading,

Chip